Food in teeth, nausea, childhood stories and exposing your pot belly
are all things you ought to avoid on first or second dates. You
run the risk of experiencing these and other humiliating incidents
if you choose the wrong place to bring your date. Good places are
memorable, different, unique, cost-effective, and relevant to both
of you in some way. Bad date places have none of these qualities
and the worst places not only lack these things, but also embarrass
you and assure that you’ll never get another date with the
person again.
Let’s look at the function of a date. If you’re single,
a date acts like an interview. Your goal is to get the other person
to still like you enough when the date is over to go out with you
again, assuming you’re still interested as well. You’re
trying to appear cool, sexy, together, confident, and fun. You’re
also trying to make the other person as comfortable as possible.
That’s why avoiding the worst places is the first step in
smart dating. The following lists the worst places you could choose
to go on a date and I recommend that you avoid them like the plague
if you want the other person to still like you when it’s over.
An Amusement Park
As the roller coaster nears its pinnacle your date looks over the
side and silently swears under her breath at you for talking her
into going on this ride. She hates roller coasters, has always been
afraid of them, and is highly susceptible to motion sickness. As
she contemplates her strategy to avoid you in the future, the coaster
starts its stomach-turning decent, and she leans over and throws
up in your lap, her way of saying “Thanks for the great date”.
Amusement parks are a funky phenomenon. You’ll often find
overgrown stuffed animals running around trying to high-five you,
screaming children, long lines, and overpriced food. Unless your
date is an amusement park buff, it’s unlikely he or she is
going to love the idea.
*** The Beach ***
Don’t get me wrong, the beach is a great place. But from
the point of view of a date with a near stranger, it stinks. First,
there’s an awful lot of sand and it can get everywhere. You
can’t easily eat on the beach; a lack of furniture contributes
to that. With sand and bugs-o-plenty, eating ends up being a drag.
But probably the worst thing about the beach is that you’re
compelled to take off most of your clothes. Now, if you both have
hot bodies, well-groomed with flat stomachs and great muscle tone,
then you have nothing to worry about. But if you don’t, stay
away from places that make you feel silly if you want to keep all
your imperfection-hiding clothes on.
*** A Non-Traditional Restaurant ***
One time I took a date to a Japanese restaurant where they made
everyone take off their shoes upon entering. There were no chairs,
just floor-level tables that everyone sat around on little pillows.
It didn’t seem like it was going to be too bad until I started
to smell my feet while eating our salads. The noxious odor must
have been escaping from the various holes in my ratty socks. The
whole night was humiliatingly awkward.
Other places to avoid are eateries where you’re expected
to use your hands to feed yourself. A first date doesn’t want
to watch you maul your barbeque ribs and chicken legs like The Missing
Link. No one likes the thought of being touched later on by greasy
fingers. And have you ever eaten corn on the cob and come away with
clean teeth?
*** A Family Function ***
I don’t know about your family, but a few of my great-aunts
have hairy faces. I mean really hairy, with partial beards and hairy
moles. One of my uncles thinks he’s still living in 1880 and
uses every racist expression ever known. So it goes without saying
that I never brought dates to family functions. And you shouldn’t
either. Weddings, reunions, baptisms, bat mitzvahs, and especially
funerals, are out.
There’s no such thing as a family that isn’t dysfunctional.
It doesn’t exist. If you bring a first or second date to a
family function be prepared for somebody to embarrass you. Grandma
will ask you two when you’re getting married and when to expect
great grandchildren. And your little cousin Eunice will promptly
tell your date all about the time you farted in church.
*** Your Parent’s House for Dinner ***
I can’t think of a more uncomfortable setting than sitting
at a dinner table with complete strangers in their own house. Don’t
put a date through this torture. You may have the hippest parents
in the world. They may intelligent, hospitable and interesting.
But don’t subject anyone you just recently met to your parents
for an entire dinner.
Often the parent of your same sex looks like you’re going
to look in twenty five years. You’ll find your date sizing
up your parent asking themselves whether they’ll be ok with
your pot belly and hairy ears a couple of decades from now.
Bringing your date to your parent’s house is just asking
for trouble. Your mom may temporarily forget that you’re trying
to make an impression and start talking to you like you’re
thirteen years old again, “Before you leave tonight my little
muffin, can you take your hemorrhoid ointment out of our medicine
cabinet, daddy keeps using it for lip cream by mistake.”
Dates can be traumatic and nerve-racking in the best of places
so don’t make it harder on either of you than you have to.
There are some great places to take a date that will make you look
like a hero, won’t cost you too much, will give you just enough
time to talk to each other, but will also provide an entertaining
distraction.
I’m talking about museums, jazz shows, rock concerts, musicals,
art shows, plays and live comedy. These are all cool places to bring
a first or second date. They allow you to talk and be entertained
at the same time. These types of places make the date memorable,
distinct and out of the ordinary. It shows you put more than just
a little thought in the idea. And if you’re trying to get
someone to go out with you for the first time, find out what kind
of bands, shows, comedians or plays they like, buy a couple of tickets,
and casually invite them along with an explanation like your buddy
just cancelled on you and you have a free ticket that you don’t
want to waste.
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